1) Look carefully at the websites of the selected providers
This is the first step : it is important to focus your research and know what kind of ceremony you want for your wedding. A well-written, good website with testimonials, photos and videos gives first confidence. Especially if the officiant delivers a little of himself. Avoid sites that lack originality… Many officiants indicate their prices, which already allows to get a clear idea of their budget to devote to this nice moment. You will find many different prices. But a symbolic ceremony, exclusive, requires at least 25h to 30h of work (without including presence on your D-day).
The website of the officiant is like his showcase and should will give you the desire to contact him for a first meeting. Politeness, kindness and availability are essential to achieve a successful symbolic ceremony!
2) Meet your officiant, talk budget with him (or her) and define together the symbolic ceremony of your dreams
If you are lucky not to live too far away, a real meeting of course helps to create a bond of trust essential to build this important moment for both of you : the celebration of your love.
He or she must inspire you with the same confidence you felt in discovering his website. At first, he will lead the interview by asking many questions to know what kind of ceremony you are dreaming about. And then, if the feeling goes well, you will ask lots of questions. Each couple is unique, with an original story and his experience should reassure you. Do not forget the practical points of your secular ceremony : the place, the guests, plan B in case of unforeseen weather for example …
This is also the time to talk about budget : if your officiant has already sent you a quote, it is then the opportunity to ask him for details. Always ask for a detailed quote. This is a guarantee for both of you, allowing to go quickly to the essential and to forget the administrative side. After all, you will spend many months together!
3) Choose an officiant who demonstrates openness, listening and empathy
He will know how to capture the story of your couple, your wishes, your values and your tastes. An officiant must balances subtly between a creative spirit, often artistic, and a perfect organization, without forgetting a warm management of the speakers who will come to speak during your ceremony. The symbolic ceremony of your wedding is also a meeting between families and friends… Your officiant must show enough creativity to offer you a ceremony tailored to your image. As such, do not hesitate to ask your officiant to show you excerpts of his created ceremonies.
4) Do not forget the scenography and musical atmosphere of your symbolic ceremony
These are very important points. Your officiant must be able to advise you the best location for your symbolic ceremony considering your wedding venue and to contact your wedding planner if you have one. He must konow the sound conduct and the technical aspects of your symbolic ceremony.
5) Do not forget the skills necessary for a successful performance on your wedding day
A beautiful symbolic ceremony requires an oral experience, a mastery of texts, and to be at ease in front of an audience. Your officiant must know how to reassure your guests who will also make a speech.
It would be a shame to underestimate this moment of the day in the entire budget of your organization.
In reality, the symbolic ceremony will set the tone for the rest of your day and your evening party.
(Photo 1 : Cooper Photo – Photo 2 : Smile Photographie – Photo 3 : Cécile Creiche – Photo 4 : Alison Bounce)